If you are with the estranged wife's husband and they have children then it will be difficult for you as the children are the bond between the two. If the estranged wife is causing problems then it is up to her ex husband to take care of it and not you. If you are not with the husband and the estranged wife is bothering you then you can cease to answer her calls or text messages and if she continues then you can get a restraining order against her.