About *1 in 5 people are not sexually interested in people of the opposite sex. What this means is; there are gay, lesbian or bisexual people everywhere you go. Between the age of 12 and 16 many people question their sexual orientation - trying to find where they "fit in", or as you put it "bi-curious". Someone testing the waters - so to speak and it is something every person does eventually - whether bi, gay, lesbian or straight. We all need to figure how to get along in the adult world as we start growing up.
Have you heard the term "gay-dar" it is the term some people use for their ability to know if someone they meet (or watch in a close proximity) is gay or straight. It is the ability to pick up on subtle clues we give off to people we are attracted to, to see if they are receptive to us. Most people regardless of orientation - learn to read and to send signals that say "I'm interested."
Now the problem; at 14, many of your friends - who you may later find out are gay, are not ready to make that statement to the world. And in all honesty, people your own age who you may have heard called "gay" or "so 'n so" acts so gay - are not gay at all. People who are older than you and already living a gay lifestyle, are most likely too old to be hanging out with a 14 year old. So you basically need to hang out where other people your age hang out. You will meet people who are interested and you will learn how to send and read signals.
If you don't any of the kids in school who are gay, then you will have to wait a few years until you are old enough to go to clubs. Its not a good idea to try meet people at toilets or pick ups on the street.
*according to gay teens . org
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