What message did ogbuefi bring to okonkwo?

Uchendu calls Okonkwo in for a meeting with him, and uses his authority to subtlely shame Okonkwo for his behaviour. Firstly, he explains the meaning of the motherland, and makes it seem as if going back to the Motherland is not a punishment as much as it is a respite from the evils that plague man. He tells Okonkwo that other men have had greater suffering and that his is not as bad as he makes it out to be. Further, he tells Okonkwo that he must survive to go home so that he does not trap his family in the mother land. He plays on Okonkwo's manly pride to ensure that Okonkwo will behave properly and with spirit.