How can you get through to someone if they're scared of commitment?

If you really love this person don't trap them in a corner. Sit down or go for a walk and ask this person straight out to explain their fears. You'd be surprised what you might hear, but it's workable.

When I met my 2nd husband he was very shy and terrified of a serious relationship. He would stay over weekends in my apartment, but I have always been true to myself and after 2 years of this I simply said, "If you think you are getting milk for free without buying this cow, think again!" Ha, ha. I started dating someone else for a bit, and bango! We were married the next August and everything worked out just fine. Be prepared though that you are not mixing up commitment with the person simply not wanting to settle down at all or growing tired of your relationship and this is why you must sit down and have a good talk together. You'll know the truth from that.

Good luck Marcy

You "get through to him" by showing respect for him and what he is feeling. If you love him, then wait as long as you can. Once you cannot wait any more, you'll have to let him know. At that time, he'll probably need some time away from you to figure out how much you actually do mean to him or to shake him up and not take you for granted. If he doesn't come back or want to go farther with the relationship, odds are he would not have anyway.