If you were trapped by your parents in a very strict home how do you get out of their strictness without disobeying when they dont want to sit and talk?

Your desire for freedom and independence is natural and normal. Your parents, however, may seem "strict" in that they won't allow you to do certain things that they feel are wrong for you at this time. Instead of labeling yourself "trapped", try to understand where they're coming from and what they're trying to protect you from. It's unfortunate, though, they your parents seem unwilling to sit down and talk. Don't give up! Continue asking them to talk with you, to negotiate and perhaps compromise on a few things. Above all, approach the situation with maturity and sensibility, treating your parents with the respect you'd like to receive yourself.