It can be any number of reasons. Your best bet is to go in and make appointments with all of her teachers, even the ones she might be doing okay with. Try to just be very open to their comments and ask questions without getting defensive.
Write down what they are saying. If you don't quite believe something, that is okay. Just listen. You can weigh and measure it all later when you get home and have spoken with everyone. If something doesn't sound believable, but 3 or 4 teachers are saying it, then you may need to reconsider.
After you have thought over your conferences, it is time to sit down with your daughter and talk to her. Again, try to listen without getting mad. It's not that you don't deserve to be angry, but when you get mad, communication stops. You really want to get to the bottom of things so you can do what you can to fix them. That means staying in control of your emotions, even if she is pushing your buttons. Most teens know exactly how to push their parent's buttons.
Ask a lot of questions, and if she throws accusations at you, don't argue them for the time being. Rather she is saying it to make you mad or if it is how she really feels, it still gives you a window to her thought process.
If you decide on punishments, don't go too easy, but don't be more harsh than you are going to carry out either. If you aren't going to stick to what you say, then later punishments will not be taken seriously. If you tell her she has to charge her cell phone in your room at night so she can't stay up texting, then make sure it ends up in your room every single night even if it is a total pain in the butt.
When she does well, make sure to praise her as well. Even when she is in a lot of trouble, she still needs to be built up wherever you can.
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