Did I pushed my husband to cheat twice because I am an abusive wife?

Probably, if he's not happy at home he'll go somewhere else and who would be happy with an abusive wife??

ANSWERNo regardless of the dynamics of the relationship you have with your husband - he is responsible for his own behavior.

If you are abusive and you want to stay with him, get help. If you are not abusive you need to decide if you want to be with this person who would not only cheat but blame you for his own bad behavior. It's a lot to think about.