How do you enjoy sex most in old age?

The great thing about sex in the mature years is that you know what you like, Hopefully you are mature enough to ask for it. The fear of pregnancy is off the table & you have had a lifetime to figure out what you like & how you like it.

You have your own bed & a you are patient enough to plan for the sex that pleases you. You may not be humping like a teenager & the frequency will almost certainly be less, but the quality should be better.

Many folks get more creative & experimental in the mature years and hopefully you have come to understand that great sex is as much in the brain as it is between our legs.

Let your freak flag fly a bit, whisper to your lover, tell them a fantasy, ask them to tell you one take your time, role play.

Sex in a successful relationship is about sharing and caring for each other. Communicating about sex is very difficult for many couples, they can have sex, but can't talk about it.

Being receptive, open, non judgemental to each others sexual interests and advances is a great gift only you can give. letting your lover please you and learn to please you is usually very interesting to most of us. Women making the first move, is often a great turn on for men.

Setting the mood and making the effort to talk about your sex life, ask open ended questions and make sure you both feel secure and non judgemental.

The Japanese have a tradition of a little book that is kept under the pillow on the bed. They are called "pillow books" and they contain racy pictures, and erotic stories that get a couple talking in bed.

In western society the term "Pillow talk" is often used to describe the sharing of erotic ideas and fantasies, to promote better sex. Try cuddling close and asking your partner a question that they won't feel trapped in, no matter how they answer: "What kind of lingerie he likes", "touch him & ask if that feels good & which way feels better", confess to him something he does that makes you feel wonderful.

The key is to make that partner open up & not feel like they is going to be trapped or judged.

Toys, Roleplay, pillow talk, fantasies, lingerie, erotic music or read stories, perhaps 3sms