What does 'being qua being' mean?

as your self how to i get a girl? well girls are attracted to things. if i could be that thing then what girls will be attracted to me. Well one thing is different from another. each thing has its own being. being qua being would be to ask 'what the H#$$ is thing?' not how does a particular thing become into but how does anyting become into. being for the sake of being.