How do you tell if a player actually likes you or is just trying to use you?

You can't really be sure. Think about the situation from all angles. Inside and out. Think until you can't think any more because that's the only thing you can do. The answers are there, just keep your feelings a separate entity from the situation entirely.

If they love you then they would do anything for you and if they didn't but they used you then they would push you aside. The way to tell if they really like you is if they have respect for your wishes and they won't mind if you want to 'wait'.

But whatever you feel is not connected to what they feel.

Sometimes you love someone, sometimes someone loves you. And SOMETIMES, the one you love is also the one that loves you.

If someone really likes youIf someone really likes you

• they would do everything in their power to "Unselfishly" show you so.
• they will never be embarrassed to be around you, and
• they will never make fun of you or hurt you.
• they will talk to you all the time and give you space.
• you can tell because you will never want to leave them. You can normally tell when their whole heart and soul is about you. Sometimes that is true love, which isn't normally found.
• they will be all about YOU, instead of other people, they won't be as much into showing you off.
• they will respect your wishes while not just bending to your every whim.

If they're using youIf they're using you

• they won't be interested in you and just want you on their arm.
• they will be all over you when another guy/girl comes around you.
• they will only ever contact you for that one thing and nothing else.

So if you find out and can test it outIt will be plain to see if you look out for it, but it just might be hard to accept it. We all make mistakes, so if you find out that you are being used, then don't be too hard on yourself. It's OK. You wouldn't want to be with them. The person will do his best to make you happy and when he is with you, try to see if he is focused on you or another girl, then you know what to do from there.

You can test it out. Try talking about something deep, like your plans and goals for the future. If he seems interested in the conversation, you know he's in love. If he seemed 'distracted' or uncaring, then he's just using you.

The person should not want you just for your body, money, or anything that's out in the world, if he really likes you then he/she would start to hang around you or smile sometimes even be pretty shy.

Every couple gets in fights and they make sarcastic remarks, but it's usually pretty easy to know the difference. Just follow your heart and do what feels right.

Here are some tips

Love is a very big Word to use now, especially these days, but when you think a guy or a lady likes you, here are some tips for all of us.

• I should be willing to spend some time with you, even though that time will be spent listening to your boring stories. I should wait for the right time to be intimate with you, but I promise it won't take more than a month, because I believe that it will strengthen the relationship. Both of us should know that in our relationship we are both involved here.
• You will know if they like you because they will pick up on all the little things you do. Whether it's fiddling with your hair when you're nervous, holding your elbows when you're cold or biting your lip when you're happy. Whatever it is they will be able to pin point at least one of your quirks.
• You can tell by asking them what they think of you. If it stupid reasons then obviously they are using you. If they are unbelievable awesome answers, then they aren't using you.
• When you ask your crush if you can use his stuff and he farts or burps he likes you.
• If he asked you if he can ''borrow'' your pencil he likes you.
• Before you start dating ask some of his friends if he likes you. If they ask why say ''oh because I heard a rumour, just wanted to know''. If they say yes then ask him out.
• If he respects you enough to keep your relationship private and holds off on the physical stuff he genuinely cares about you. However if he is pushy and constantly brags to his friends about your relationship he is using you for his ego.
• When an x or simply a boy or girl walks in the room and suddenly they are really into you, flirting, giggling and they keep on looking at the person.

Example of a situationThere's a girl, let's call her Sue. She likes me. There's another girl, Nancy. Nancy is jealous of Sue. She fights with Sue to make her angry and avoid me so she can move in and hit on me. She's not hitting on me out of pure interest, she's doing it because it makes Sue jealous. This is an example of a situation where it actually is easy to tell if someone is using you.

Another simple way to tell

Here's another simple way to tell if a girl really does like you or if she's just using you. If a girl wants to spend time with you and doesn't care about anything else, she wants you. When she wants to spend time with you and wants you to buy everything for her and drags you along to wherever she wants, she's using you. If she hangs around her friends and laughs or giggles whenever you come near, she's using you. It's that simple. If you still have doubts about this person, then it's not a good relationship anyway. Don't be afraid of breaking up, it's part of growing up and becoming more mature. It won't be a mistake. Keep your head up. There's always another fish in the sea.

Try to get on with it

There are a number of questions that can be raised if alarm bells ring when a person one has started dating or seeing begins to 'not turn up' for a date or just plain cancel, on a regular basis. One offs are ok, as long as there is communication. Is there is a lack of respect with regard to their communication or rather, the lack of?

If things had started well and then one of you stops communicating, the reason may not always be that the person has decided they have had their 'needs' fulfilled and have used you. If the person who feels abandoned starts to fret and call, text and trouble the other, this may cause them to flee and be even more distant. Try to get on with your own enjoyment, this may well be a chance for you to take up a new hobby or pursue an adventure which may well help you to realize that you may have come across as quite 'needy'. This, in my experience, never helps when the other person has become emotionally distant.

I read that in particular, a man who is having feelings towards someone, they will disappear for a while, to have space and to think. This is known as 'Going into his cave'. Men seem to have a need for space to reflect on his feelings. When a man has had this space, without interruption, he is ready to show he has feelings and the cycle will go on. A woman seems to need the security of their partner being 'on tap' with response and communication.

A person whom you are in a relationship with, if they have feelings for you, wouldn't think twice to let you know what is going on in the relationship. They want to be with their choice of partner and would, in the beginning stages of a fresh relationship, spend quite a bit of time getting to know that person.

A person who decides to abuse the trust, by making the relationship into more of a convenience for them, is using the other person. If someone doesn't enter a new relationship with pure intention, the alarm bells will start to ring.

Try to keep your self-worth intact with regards to relationships, if they start to unwind.