What to say to someone who is self harming?

you say that your always there for them. they need to know that someone, anyone is there. they feel alone, and misunderstood. you do NOT yell at them, or tell them to "just stop". that will only put more pressure on them. dont say that your mad at them, that will get them upset. coming from a self harmer, i know what they want. oh yeah and DO NOT call them "emo". "emo" is not cutting, its just a style. the key to talking to them is, just dont make them feel bad and make sure that they know that your there for them.