How to ask my child if they were sexually abused?

You need to be up front and honest because most children are not sure what sex abuse really is. Believe what the child tells you as they then feel confident in you helping them through this ordeal. Your question could be as simple as "Are you being touched anywhere that you know is wrong".

I was interfered with when I was young and nobody believed me. I also believe that abused children do not grow up to be molesters themselves.