How do you tell if your toddler has been sexually abused?

Very young children do not understand that the activity was inappropriate morally, but they still have a sense that something is wrong. They will act out inappropriately. They may exhibit a lack of trust because they have been violated or conversely they may exhibit too much trust in strangers because a parent has permitted the violation and they no longer find safety with the parent. They may mumble odd things because they want to "disclose" but are afraid too. Social Services should not be called in unless you have no choice. They are too pressured to properly evaluate a child that young. It often takes hours of getting to know the child and objective evaluation to get at the truth, they don't have the time or the training. Ask your doctor or go to the local emergency room for a referral to a good child psychologist or therapist who can make a proper evaluation. Sexual abuse of children is much higher than society admits, ask around and you will find someone with the proper training.