How do you get over someone you love when they do not feel the same way and we have children?

You can scour the internet or go look at self-help books and they will give you stupid advice like immerse yourself in a hobby, spending time with friends,tell yourself self-affirming things like you're too good for them and they don't deserve you, etc.

It's true that time usually helps ease the pain but, damn, when it happens it hurts and feels like the hurt is never going to go away.

Sadly, if it was love - real loveand not a crush -you may not get over itfor a long time. In fact, you maycontinue having strong feelings for them no matter how hard you try to forget them, even if you find someone else you may hold a secret place for that lost love in your heart.Little things will remind you of them anda bit of the hurt will still be there. Don't deny it. Live with it.

You're not alone at having been hurt by an unrequited love.

Even though people with the best of intentions may tell you to move onyou may find that's it's a struggle. Maybethat's about all you can do. Maybe that'sabout all any of us can do. Just acceptthat it wasn't meantto be andstagger forward but keep moving forward because there's more to life in the long runthan a lost love.