Yes, when your husband has had an affair and been recently caught your wounds are still fresh because he has broken that bond of trust. For the first time you are looking at your husband in disbelief and with a new perception of him. The trust is gone and until he can earn it back then you will never feel quite the same about him again because you will fear he will have another affair. It is important to seek marriage counseling and to get your husband to communicate with you more openly. Both men and women around the beginning of their 40's and sometimes older may feel they are missing something; want to recapture their youth and want to know the opposite sex is still interested in them. If your husband has not had an affair before and now that he has been caught there is a good chance he will never do it again, but you both have to approach the problem he has in the marriage in a calm manner no matter how much he has hurt you.
