Why are men so abuseive?

Abusers, male or female, nearly always come from families where abuse was the norm. That is also true of people who are attracted to abusers.

People from abusive backgrounds find themelves attracted to that sort of person because they have characteristics with which they are familiar, and that make them feel comfortable. We tend to seek out mates that mirror our parents, whether we try to or not, and we usually end up behaving as they did, as well.

One of the characteristics of abuse is that it tends to become more severe as relationships progress, and often does not show up until there is stress that triggers it. Then the abuser, not having been shown other ways of dealing with what he or she perceives as an otherwise insurmountable problem, falls back into the ways that the family of origin behaved.

If you find yourself involved with more than one abuser, it would be a good idea to extricate yourself from the situation, and perhaps speak with someone about why you seem to be attracted to that sort of person.

We can assure you that not all men are abusive.