Maybe your boyfriend's mother doesn't intend to be rude or "in your business", and maybe she doesn't realize you take it that way. Quite often a son's girlfriend or wife may feel she has to be 'in competition' with the mother for the son's affection and/or attention. After all, it is the mother that has raised and loved her son from the day he was born, so she may find it difficult to relinquish being the most important female in his life. She's been the one he's gone to for advice on all sorts of topics, and may feel as though she's no longer needed, which is difficult for many mothers to deal with. Also, if you're not living together, and he still lives with her, she may feel she has more 'rights' than you do. She may just need more time than other mothers to adjust to the fact that her son is a grown man. Try being patient with her and reassure her that your relationship with her son is not a competition.
Sometimes, a mother may try to give advice in her attempts to help, and the girlfriend or wife takes it as the mother being nosey or bossy. The mother is the one who has advised the son his whole life as he was growing up, and may find it hard to 'pass the baton' on to another woman. Try being more tolerant and patient, and try to become friends with her. If she continues to be rude and nosey, then tell her calmly and politely that, while you appreciate her concern, you prefer to maintain your privacy. If none of your attempts to get along with her work, then your boyfriend needs to deal with his mother and let her know she's overstepping her bounds. If it were one of your parents, it would be your responsibility to let them know where the boundaries are, so with it being his mother, it's his responsibility to do the same. But don't ever make your boyfriend feel he has to choose between you and his mother. If you do, then you may win the battle, but will lose the war because your boyfriend could end up resenting you and blaming you for making him choose.
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