I found myself passive and not addressing any of the issues at all with a 55 year old Narcissist woman. WHY I was shallow and I never really stated my truths?

Answer

It sounds like you are angry about the way you have been treated, and that may well be understandable. At the same time, your rage will only hurt you. Just because you did not address the rational issues does not mean that you are shallow. It means that at some level (probably unconscious) you did not want to face them. You were not ready, and that does not make you any less of a man; you just need to focus on the future from here out. Decide what you want to do with your life, and if you are prepared to stay in this relationship. Rationality would undoubtedly tell you to leave, but there is another side of the mind that may inhibit you: emotion.

Emotions can easy cloud the mind and cause you to be afraid, angry, or heartbroken. Nobody can tell you how to react to these emotions, or what to do in your situation. Only you can decide.