Your husband had an affair with a girl he works with How can you tell if its over between them?

If he confessed then I guess he loves you more than the other woman and thus ended it for your sake or maybe he doesn't want to pay alimoney. Either way since he broke your trust for 4 years, then its best you be a little carefull and I doubt he'll blame you for it. So hire a private detective Or bug him (as in put a tracing unit in his car or jacket) like in Veronica Mars:) but then you'll be constantly monitoring his movements (with no time to do the things you want to do). So either trust him and play the part of the loving wife who wouldn't question his loyalty or hire a private detective or you bug him. This is strictly my own opinion, but, I'd leave the relationship. Your husband had a 4-year relationship behind your back and I doubt he came clean with you on his own. Marriage is suppose to be about honesty, loyalty and trust and he's broken all those vows. Why waste time worrying and tracking down your husband; sit him down and tell him it's over and you at least want a separation. Perhaps that will give both of you time to think things over and if he doesn't realize he's in love with you then file for divorce. I was married before to a husband that cheated more than once and I filed for divorce immediately, but we owned no property together and there were no children involved.