What do you do if you fall in love with a married man you are married you love each other but you don't want to hurt your spouses?

It's real simple. You WALK AWAY. If you don't you'll be in for more hurt and pain than you can imagine.

Easier said than done... most want to just say "walk away" but if they were placed in that same category, they two are would be pondering if they should leave or stay because their feelings are now involved. I've been here and the best thing to do is talk to your spouse if you absolutely know that there is no return...you owe it to your first relationship to either be totally involved or let it go. But don't string it along because you don't want to hurt feelings... feelings are already being hurt by your infidelity.