We believe too many people have this problem, for there isn't really a good way to achieve this. but there are somethings one can do/notice to help in his/her quest.
1. play Word games
Some Word games requires the players taking turns shout out answers rapidly, like the drinking game "Kings". When one is under extreme time constraints, he/she can only think about a few things on the top of their heads, and if the host (you) lure the answer category into areas where bondage/rope/handcuffs/blindfold.... etc are the possible answers. You know these individuals thinks about it decently often.
(for example, name Words that end in "age". lineage ->Heritage -> stage -> message -> manage -> page -> bondage!!!!)
2. Go to rope-art/bondage workshops.
there are guaranteed to be some in every major city. NY, Boston, Phily....
3. Bondage conventions
4. wear something suggestive
little decorative handcuffs earrings, leather bracelet with buckles, wear a rope weaved belt that you made. These can inspire conversations, and so others who is trying to find a friend who likes bondage/sm would be able to identify and chat with you
5. Meet, Chat with, and befriend people who are very dominate or submissive
For the opposite reasons, people who are very dominating are usually subs when it comes to bondage/sm, and vise ver sa.
6. Go to the hardware store and book stores
Go see if there are people buying ropes who doesnt look like construction workers.
and pick a good sit around the "sex and relationship books" section in book stores, and see if anyone picks up "Bondage for Sex (by THE Chanta Rose) ", "Fetish 101", or books like these.
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conclusion....
GO MEET MORE PEOPLE!!!!!!!!
Good luck hunting.
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