What is a proper gift for an engagement party?

You know, I think things are getting out of hand. First you get a pretty little invitation in the mail........its a 'SAVE THE DATE' card............ then you get another invite..........it's the engagement party invite........ OH WHOOPIE!!!!!!!.................then you get another 'save the date' invite ---------its the SHOWER...................Then you get yet THE BIG INVITATION.........IT'S THE WEDDING!!!!!!!!! OEY VEY.... It's getting ridiculous........and I'm trying to remember...I don't think you should be required to bring a gift to the engagement party. Jeeze. Who can afford to do these things anymore? Just stick to............SHOWER...........WEDDING........ SIGH.......... no because I am not aeare the weeding before now