What can you do if your girlfriend tends to take other people's problems on and becomes very sensitive and if you are not available to listen or don't answer your phone she gets upset with you?

Some people just wear their heart on their sleeves and by doing so can use up all their own energy trying to resolve other people's problems. There is a point, where we give the best advice we can to someone and if they choose not to listen then we must move on, yet stay somewhat supportive. There are also two other types of people that do what your girlfriend does ... #1 Someone that needs drama in their lives constantly and #2 They find it easier getting involved in other's problems so they don't have to fix their own. If we don't do this, then they will suck up every ounce of energy YOU have. It can leave a person drained. If you are honest you probably don't want to answer her call because you know what you are going to get at the other end (hearing about other's problems.) The best thing to do it to be completely honest with your girlfriend and tell her that she has chosen to take on the problems of this friend, is an enabler by doing so because people have to also learn to help themselves, and you just can't handle it because you have problems of your own. You are going to get some name-calling I'm sure, but things will settle down. I just recently had to do this to a girlfriend of mine as she was taking up my time with other's problems and although I am not trying to sound callous here, I have enough of my own problems and have the right to reserve what energy is left to help family or friends that are closest to me. Have that talk and say it in a kind and steady voice. If talking on the phone she may hang up on you, but I have no doubt she will call back in a week or two. If she starts in on the same old, same old, then gently remind her you're not listening to it. Good luck Merry Christmas Marcy Get a new girlfriend. If she is this way now, what do you think she will be like if you tolerate this behavior and end up marrying her in the future? You must be pretty young. This should be obvious to anyone who has been around the block at least once. And yeah, yeah, I know you love her and her other qualities are great. But if this bugs you now, it's not going to get better. It's just NOT. I do agree with the other poster to some extent, but girlfriend or friend, it's worth it to try before walking away. If the person just doesn't get it, then the other poster is correct. Marcy