How do you hold your load longer?

There are lots of ways to hold your load longer during sex. Try:

Changing positions to having her on top. It's a lot less stimulating to the guy.

Focus on breathing deeply, and not going too fast...that's when you pop.

Pay attention to what she really likes and keep doing it....the idea is to have good sex, not sex that lasts forever. If both people orgasm it's a win!