What should you do if your husband sometimes tells you to lose some weight?

well lets do it this way,,,if he loves u for who u r and not what u look like then it don't matter,,,now like i did with my husband, he wanted me to start doin my hair and puttin on my makeup,,,which after nineteen yrs i don't feel i need to impress him i already got him,,,,so what i tell him is this,,,i will do my hair and make myself look good only he will do the same thing, so if ur hubby has put on a few pounds himself like mine did i just told him i will do what i need to do look good again if he will loose the weight he gained and make himself look good again too,now if u gained the weight because of over eating show him u can try and then let him know the more he teases u the bigger u get,,,the less he teases u the smaller u'll get,,,just tell him u both need to do it together

AnswerTake a good hard look in the mirror, both physically and emotionally. Do you really need to lose a few pounds? There is no shame in admitting it and only self love and respect in doing the right thing FOR YOURSELF if it's true. If you take off the extra weight you will feel better in so many ways. This should not be about your husband. But while we are on that subject, men are visual creatures and practical creatures. Your husband will feel loved if you do something PRACTICAL to please him VISUALLY. Instead of always thinking that a man is being sexist, selfish, or mean we womenfolk should try respecting and listening to our mates once in awhile. Let's face it. When we don't like something our spouse does, we don't mind complaining about it. Turn-about is fair play! AnswerFirstly, if he's requested it, then you have a problem and he doesn't find you sexually attractive.

Here are your options:

Losing weight is good for your health.

Doing so will ensure he doesn't stray.

Questions?

AnswerWhy don't you suggest that you pick up a healthy hobby. You'll get to spend time together and you'll both lose some weight (I'm sure he's no stud). AnswerWell, a better question is, do YOU feel like you need to lose weight and have you gained an unhealthy amount of weight (and he's concerned about it) or is he just being cruel and a control freak? AnswerHow much different if your weight from when you got married? We marry the people we love and I am sure you are the same person but we also marry people we are attracted to and that does tend to change with time. You don't need to try to get to your wedding dress weight if that is not realistic but if your figure has changed a lot you might want to consider the affect on your health and attractiveness. I am sure he still loves who you are he probably just wants you to also still be bikini worthy, or at least limber enough to have some private fun. Pick up an active hobby that will help you lose weight and build some stronger muscle and you will feel better and look better and can demand that he do something equally tough for you. AnswerLose the weight then dump him for someone better. Hes a loser.

How much weight you need to lose depends on your age. as women get older and with child bearing they naturally gain weight without over eating. It could be that your husband has unrealistic ideas about what you should look like in comparisons with your age. Some men really don't want their wife to get old and that is the real problem. If that is the case then you will have to tell him to adjust to your older age or feel free to leave. Don't be fooled by Hollywood, they have all had extensive surgical procedure to look younger but I would not allow him to pressure you to have to do that. As for the person that said, "He probably just wants you to be bikini worthy" That's the most ridiculous thing I've heard. I don't know of any older woman who has had a few childre that is bikini worthy.. Bottom line is, if you must determine for yourself if your husbands requests are reasonable. If they are, I would try to accomidate him but ask him to help you by him going for walks with you and working out with you. Also, have him agree to no junk food in the house. If his requests are unrealistic then tell him to love you or leave you and if he happens to be over weight himself, I would make a stipulation that you will only agree to lose weight if he loses weight too. Either way, he should be working out and going for walks with you. To suport you or to lose weight himself. It won't kill him to also exercise.