My husband says he wants to go to counseling and get help for his problem Can a physically abusive person change their ways?

Answer Your husband has to admit first that he has a problem. Counselling will only work if he is willing to put in the effort and you have to realise it doesn't work overnite. You haven't mentioned if drugs was involved. A physical abuser will always be an abuser unless they want to change and not because you gave him an altermatum to change. I know through experience i gave my husband too many chances he said the same go to counselling but he never changed I left him after 13 yrs i am happy now but all relationships are different. You may have that one out of a few that really love you and are willing to change. Good luck and I hope everything turns out. Remember: They don't know wot they lost until it gone for good.