How do you know when you've been played?

1- he sends you a message like : hey my phones acting up. Just got your message, I'll endeavor to get back to you asap.

2- he used cash instead of credit cards when you went out. (fear of wifey finding out).

3- he "works" on weekends and cant meet with you those days. (wifey time).

4- you've never been to his house,but he strongly prefers to come to yours.

5-he refuses to add you on facebook (this ones obvious).

6-his online dating profiile says hes interested in "hang out" and "having a laugh" (incase wifey finds out).