You met this guy in online the first time you saw him and talked to him you felt that he is your ideal man and really like him but the problem is he only contacts you when he needs sex or twice a mth?

Unfortunately it seems that he found what he wanted online and its not the same as what you may be looking for. He is using you for his own selfish needs. It would be in your best interest to let this one go and see things for what they are now as they are not going to change but end up hurting you in the end. Don't allow people to treat you in such a manner.