Where can you find references that will help you understand an abuser who has been abused along with suggestions on what can be done?

I hope that that person gets help and does not use there abuse as an excuse to abuse,however, those abused are twice as likely to abuse themselves.Make sure you stay safe. There are several resources that can help. Netcare-276-care(2273) Choices - is very good. 224-4663. No one is turned away because of income. They offer education, counseling,emergency housing if needed for women and children, a hotline, support groups,etc. Again, make sure you stay safe. It is very hard for people who physically hit others to change. It can be done, but remember any kind of physical abuse ultimitely can be life threatening. I wish you success in your endeavor to understand this awful disease, and hope for the person you wish to understand. God Bless You.