How do you tell if an older man hes 38 im 20 really likes you for you or if he just enjoys the thrill and ego boost of having a younger woman?

He's 38 -- he likes younger women. That doesn't mean he can't be a good friend, or even a lover. But don't expect it to last and don't let him pressure you. In a healthy relationship, neither partner "controls" the relationship -- things are worked out together and both partners feel equal. Above all, don't let him isolate you or insist that the two of you have to sneak around. If you have any "funny feelings" about what's going on, trust them!