When was To Love Honor and Obey in popular use in wedding vows?

It was popular up until the 60's when Women's Lib came into play. Women began to realize that the men thought the Words were for her carry out and the men weren't involved in the vows. Women fought hard during the early 1900's to get the right to vote and women weren't about to sit in the back seat any longer. Many young couples now make up their own vows and it should involve having respect for each other and not who rules over who. This answer is not quite correct. In the Episcopal Church, upon the publishing of the 1928 Book of Common Prayer which superseded the previous 1898 Book, the vow of the bride eliminates the provision to 'obey' and makes the vows of bride and groom to be identical, though separately and individually taken. Since the Book of Common Prayer provides the most widely used and copied form for Holy Matrimony, the obedience clause in wedding vows has been diminishing since at least 1928; and clearly the issue had been being discussed well before that date, for its inclusion into the 1928 Book of Common Prayer to be accepted. Surely the work of women and men to change the status of women, to accept women as fully human (thank you, Dorothy Sayers, Amelia Bloomer, Mary Cady Stanton, the Grimke sisters, and many, many others) was seminal to this change.