Dominant and submissive personalities

Recently I have been looking into the world of dominant and submissive personalities and found (surprisingly to me) that most males are submissive in relationships with their partners but in life more dominating (for example at work). Which I see does make sense … anyway I found that you either are laid back in real life then dominate in your relationships, or in real day to day life more dominating and then submissive in relationships. My question is that can you be laid back in day to day life but be both in a relationship (like reversing the roles often)?

*I am straight, but my research covered gay men, bi women and men and straight men and women.*

(I am truly sorry if I cause any offence by this post and if you have any questions please leave a comment or message me. No hate massages please.)