How do you mesmerise a girl?

The inference of this question is that you want to know how to maximise your chances of engaging a young woman's interest in you; to engage her attention in such a way that she might agree to go on a date with you. It's not possible to "mesmerise" people in order to control them/ make them engage in intimacy against their wills, which would, in any case, were it even possible, be unethical, creepy, and criminal. It is, however, possible to talk and interact with women in courteous, respectful, and positive/ affirmative ways which, if developed artfully, will make them far more likely to respond positively to you than if you simply indulge in the posturing and showboating that young males tend to think impress them, but, in fact, generally don't!

The following "tips" also presuppose that you already, to some degree, know the young woman who is the subject of your desire - perhaps she's at your school? - shares a college class or workplace with you?, or whatever... So, assuming you are already generally aware of each other; assuming that you have some naturally occurring "point of contact" (eg you might talk now and then over coffee in a larger group), and assuming she is happy to talk with you one to one... then you could, at an appropriate time, do something like this:

1.) Focus conversation on her - do not talk about yourself all the time! Take every opportunity to encourage her to express HER thoughts, ideas, opinions, feelings, and always pick up on any cues indicating her particular interests... and develop the conversation around those topics.

2.) Crucially, be affirmative and give constant positive feedback: don't overdo it by being too pushy/ in her face (ie don't "interrogate"!), but DO regularly say things like "that's really clever/ interesting/ fascinating", or "I'd never have thought of that!", or "that's amazing - tell me more!" etc etc.. Keep it calm, and always smile and make eye contact.

3.) Eye contact - critical, but be careful! No "mad eyed" stare that'll creep her out, but plenty of regular eye contacts matter. It's vital, however, to pace this to her - the more she looks at you, the more you can reciprocate. If she seems comfortable with more sustained eye contact (and especially if this is accompanied by pupil dilation; her toes pointing at you; open body gestures - eg she's leaning towards you; legs are uncrossed; her hands are regularly palm out towards you; she keeps touching her own cheek or playing with her hair, or, best of all, she keeps touching you!) then you can start to "work with her": her body language is, in effect, inviting you to do so.

4.) Slow the pace of your speech - almost murmur. Start to look directly into her eyes for more sustained periods, and periodically focus your gaze directly into only her left eye whilst paying her little compliments. Gently make regular physical contacts - touching a hand perhaps - especially when being complimentary, and notice her general demeanour/ facial expression. If she is clearly happy, comfortable, relaxed etc then you can sustain contact and start to develop things.

If you've got to this stage, she is "mesmerised" - ie fully engaged in talking with you, pretty well to the exclusion of all else: her face will appear relaxed (her mouth probably slightly open), her pupils will be dilated, and she'll probably have a slightly "goofy" smile. She'll willingly allow physical contact, and will be happy for you to look into her eyes. Keep talking - ever so gently; always affirmatively - and hold her hand, stroking it gently.

5.) Revisit earlier conversational themes - reframe earlier questions/ comments; ask her for more developed ideas, opinions etc.. By so doing you're reaffirming your interest in her and her world view, and signalling that you want more. Throughout all this, sustain gentle contact (eg keep stroking her hand), and keep smiling, and wherever possible be gently humorous - share little jokes etc..

6.) Finally, but very importantly, whilst making sustained eye contact (and perhaps holding and gently rubbing both her hands) tell her how interesting and attractive she is. Don't just say "I find you interesting and attractive" (!!?) - tell her, gently but firmly, that she's a fascinating person; that her eyes are deep, dark, warm and intelligent, or whatever...; that she has a cute nose, lovely neck, amazing cheek bones, beautiful figure etc etc.. Tell her you can't remember when you last had such an enjoyable time as this, and that you would really like to see her again - soon, but only, of course, if she feels likewise. Thank her for talking with you - you have really enjoyed her company.

7.) Give her your contact details - never ask for hers! Reaffirm that you really want to see her again - and soon, and state clearly that you would love her to get in touch. Tell her that, sadly, you must now go - a prior commitment (something like "My best friend is having a hard time right now, and I promised to go see him."); touch her forehead or cheek - once, but very deliberately. On your way - just before you exit/ disappear from her line of sight, turn deliberately; look directly at her, and if she's watching you - smile!