How do you get him to break up with me?

Break up with him.

If you do not want to be with some don't wait for them to make the break. It's better and usually simpler to do it yourself. You'll feel guilty at first but it's the right thing to do.

another thing is: where you closer when you were friends or when you were bf and gf. tht happened to me and i thought we were closer when we were just friends.