Should you stay married if you are not in love?

Yes, but love also changes over time. Sometimes you aren't in love with your partner and then other times you are. The same thing goes on with your partner. We tend to think of love as a constant and it isn't. It comes and goes and has an ebb and flow. Some people think that passion is love, but that is not what love really is about. Love is a friendship, a caring, and sometimes even a bit of hate. Most of us have bought into the Disney concept of love or the romantic stories of love, but this isn't what it is about and there is no such thing as "instant love" online. There can be instant like. Love takes time to grow and it is the hardest thing in human experience to keep.