Mom the executrix of grandma's estate is paying for your cousins' therapy using money from the estate - this is not a condition of the will - is this legal while the estate is still in probate?

If your mother is keeping receipts for the doctor's visits your cousin is going too, and your mother is in the Will as well as being Executrix, then she has to deduct this portion off her share of any monies left to her after the Will is probated. Example: Your mom has to divide the Will up between herself, sisters, etc., that may be in your grandmother's Will. If your mother chose to use this money to help your cousin and has not asked for permission from the Heirs in the Will, she is actually breaking the law unless your mother is the sole Heir. When in Probate this is to be sure all outstanding debts are paid for and no house taxes are due. Once this is done (approx. 1 year) then the monies/properties are acted out in accordance to your grandmother's Will by a lawyer. If you mother cannot account with receipts for the money spent on the cousin, then she could be in big trouble and will have to replace this money back into the Estate.