How can you help an insecure partner?

You can help your partner by changing your perception of who you think they are. Because you are asking, "How can I help my insecure partner?" they have convinced you as well as themselves that this indeed is their truth. Seventy five percent of our thoughts are negative in nature and it only takes the body seventeen seconds to create a cellular footprint of these thoughts. Because I have lived it, I know that your partner has conditioned their body to experience insecurity. Our fear-based thoughts about being exposed in some manner, sadness in relationship to missed opportunities, uneasiness in our own skin, self-doubt, anxiety about the future, and regrets of the past only perpetuate more of the same. We have 89,000 thoughts per day of which 79,000 are the same ones we had yesterday, and if seventy five percent of them are self-defeating, it is of no surprise that your partner feels this way. Habitual thoughts, good or bad, are the subconscious minds way of saying "more please."

See your partner as being greater than their current circumstances. See your partner as a Divine being who is seeking to Master their emotions, through the experience of insecurity. Forgive yourself for buying into the notion that they are indeed that personality that shows up lacking in confidence. Through empathy, we create mirror-neurons matching our partners and feel it within ourselves, thus creating a cellular memory for a future experience. Forgive them for forgetting who they are, a spiritual being having a human experience.

The pain of experiencing insecurity is the body's alarm signal, telling them that they have chosen to live a lie. If they reverse the pain, they will get to the original thought that created this emotion. Perhaps the original thought, which produced an unloving emotion, was the direct result of a grade school teacher who made fun of their ability in front of the class, and this painful body memory is played out repeatedly. This is a moment-by-moment walk with your partner. It is frustrating to witness someone you love isolate themselves in this way because we sometimes react in unloving ways. During these difficult moments, frustration is asking you to also be greater than the current circumstances. To offer your partner more compassion so that you can hold them in a space of unwavering confidence that they will remember who they are and stop living the lie.