How can you tell if he loved the other women and if he still wants her?

If he had sex and it was fun he wants to do it again. Like eating chocolate - it's not good for you but you want it. But if it was chocolate or your husband, you'd give up chocolate. So maybe it wasn't fun enough for him to leave you. I'd say if you intend to keep him - and that's entirely up to you - after a month or so, maybe you guys need to start having more sex or something. Spice it up -dress nice, go on dates, maybe make him see you're not a doormat. Flirt with a cute guy or something. *Don't* sleep around - two wrongs do NOT make a right - but if he sees that other guys think you're hot, it'll be good for your ego and maybe make him a little jealous, kick him into realizing he has a nice thing at home. Basically, if you're gonna keep him (and I'm not sure I could) you need to put it behind you and get aggressive about making your marriage a better place to be - more sex, less complaining and fighting, more independence for you. Get a job or a hobby or something. Get out and hang with friends, do some exciting stuff. Change it up.