How do you get over your wife confessing to an affair 10 years ago?

To get over her affair, you must try and understand 4 things:

1. She may have been missing something that you should have been providing her.

2. She may have spent every single day of the last decade proving her love and loyalty to you.

3. The pain and guilt she feels from hurting you is probably no less burdensome than your own pain, and could even be actually worse because she knows she created it. 4. Once you decide that what you have with her is something worth keeping, you must realize that you may lose it all if you don't let it go and forgive her COMPLETELY.

This is of course much easier said than done. People with long memories may struggle with this many years later and even have black moods over it. You have to decide if you can live with the pain and continue. 10 years of marriage is a lot to throw away if the marriage is otherwise good and if there are children involved. If you decide to forgive, then you must try your best to avoid bringing it up in arguments etc. No matter what people tell you - it is not easy. Keep your friends and family close to you as this will help. Some people may say "Forgive -it was 10 years ago". It is never that easy. Betrayal is very hurtful.

Time is the greatest healer.