How can you tell your parents you are gay if you are 13?

== == It might be wiser to wait a little while, like until you're in high school to come out to your parents, so you're really sure and you understand a lot about being gay. I'd suggest finding out their opinions on homosexuals, and get your friends' support before you tell your parents.

== == I'm gay and I came out to my parents when I was 13. They've always been accepting of gay people (and other 'different' people), so I knew they wouldn't mind, but it was still one of the hardest things I've ever done. Make sure they're in a good mood and there's lots of time available to discuss it (I told my parents as we were driving back home from a rock concert we'd all really enjoyed).

If your parents are really homophobic, you should probably tell someone else who isn't first, but should tell your parents sooner or later. If they are accepting, tell them as soon as a good opportunity presents itself. If they aren't really accepting or homophobic, I would recommend telling them. Explain to them that it's just how you are, it isn't a choice and that you're happy being gay. Answer their questions in as much detail as possible. There's a book called Is It A Choice? by Eric Marcus which will help answer questions if you can get a copy. You pick a place in the house that most family discussions take place. Sit down with them and Say, I need to tell you both something that may surprise you and I don't want to upset either one of you, I need to be true to myself, I'm gay. Honesty and frankness is best. Have some answers ready for them, How do you know, when did you feel this, is it something we did. Explain to them what you feel like, not sexually, that is personal, they will know that, but how you feel inside, let them know that you are still the same person they have always known just that your preference for companionship is different then their own. Be prepared for shock and anger, hopefully, it will pass as you let them know that gays are doctors, lawyers, teachers, pilots, etc, , productive people of society and that being gay is not something to be afraid of, that your heart and soul are still the same and that you will always be their child....Be gentle, some people take it personally and I'm sure you know that people are afraid of anything different. They may surprise you and already know, If that is the case then half your battle is over. Good luck and be true to yourself..... See the related questions below.