Why sexuality is a choice?

Sexuality is not a choice.

You cannot choose to be straight, gay or bisexual. If you are choosing to be straight it means you really aren't straight, you are just forcing yourself to be.

People do not choose to be gay or bisexual.

I, personally, am bisexual. Which means I attracted to both sexes. Many people ask me the question "How do you know you're bi?". I say "How do you know you're straight?". Its the question. The question is very similar to something as strange sounding as "How do you know you are black?" and someone may reply with "Because you can see my skin is dark and not white." but what they really mean is "It's just how i was born. I can't help who I am." which is exactly how straight forward it is in my mind not being straight.

I am aware of how obscure a thought it may be to people that being black and gay are the same in the sense that you are born with it and cannot help it because its who you are. People would argue by saying being black is different. That is is a clear difference that you can't change. A physical different against an emotional one. People think you can change these emotions or otherwise 'cure' them. You cannot 'cure' a sexuality. It is not a virus or a disease or an illness. It is a perfectly natural part of being human.

A large majority of people say that they have had confused experiences with their sexuality and thought about people the same sex in a sexual way. Which is natural during puberty, a lot of things mentally, physically and hormonally are changing. What is so hard about accepting that these thought might not leave your head? That the conclusion may end in you being bisexual or gay? If you are a sexually confused teen, when you snap out of the confusion it's not a decision. That would defy the point of the confusion. Surely if you could choose then there would be no need to have feelings for the same sex if you could just switch it on and off.

Some people say they have been gay or bi as long as they can remember, all through their childhood they knew they were 'different' and once they hit puberty (or even before, at a younger age) they just knew.

However many times you hear "your sexuality isn't even a big part of your life", for a lot of people it is. Being gay naturally draws you toward people who are understanding about how and why you feel the way you do and so you can be yourself around them and feel comfortable. Bisexuals come somewhere in the middle of being straight and gay in the sense that they could possibly be more accepted by straight people than gays but often drifting toward other people that are open minded and understand, which are often other gay and bisexuals because they are generally more open minded and understanding than most straight people.

But don't get me wrong, i have many straight friends who are very understanding and supportive of my sexuality. However, this support is more commonly found in people who have been in similar circumstances (with going through things like 'coming out' for example), which are most likely to be people who are not straight.

Anyway, I've gone slightly off topic so i think I'll stop the rant here. Leave counter arguments if you have any, i would be interested to see if i could counter them back. I hope this helped. (despite how much i went off ranting about other things)