How to tell if someone is being abused?

Signs of AbuseThis is one of those very difficult things to find out from your children. I would have a heart-to-heart talk with him. Start out by asking if everything is going OK with him and his girlfriend. Of course you will probably get, "Everythings fine." Since you have a great concern and mother's instincts are usually right on the nose, I would continue by saying, "Well, I don't think everything is OK. I love you and I want you to know there isn't anything you can't tell me." If he still doesn't start talking then say, "You know, if a woman isn't good to her mate, is verbally or physically abusive this is not right. These are not arguements and you need to decide what you are going to do about it. As I said, I'm here for you and we can talk it out." Hopefully, he will take the bait, and if not, then I am afraid this is something he is going to have to sort out for himself.

Signs of abuse:

Scrach marks, welts, bruising, torn clothing, the victim has gone into a shell and isn't their "old self."

Remember, some of the signs I just gave you could be from playing sports as well and there is always the possibility it is not his girlfriend abusing him, but other guys. Young men can get into fights and sometimes get into situations they shouldn't be in.

Have that talk with him as soon as possible.

i think that is he is a but unhappy at home and things have a talk to him but also have a talk with his girlfriend the answer at first might be ' i have heart him at all'' but have a talk with your son HEART TO HEART it must be very personal though, you shouldn't do thing to quickly, ask him if he is ok and ask him about his personal life a phew minutes later :)

ANSWER:

Male abuse is rare, but only because their ego keeps them quiet. Ask! But you must have long before typing here. If you do not have a good relationship with your son that might be part of the answer. Sit down and explain that you had an abusive situation (make it up if you have to), and that it was much better once you talked about it. If something is happening they might open up, if not, go about your business. Do not break up the couple (without physical proof) unless you want hatred from both. You need to specify what you suspect to get a better answer, sorry?!

If he comes up with bruises, and when you tell him he's late for his date, he winces and goes, "No thank you." And runs out of the house screaming for dear mercy. OR. he comes home smelling like perfume and is covered in lipstick and is breathing hard, then he is being abused.

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s are worthless without knowing the problem. Physical or mental? Signs shown? Odd comments? Odd actions, reactions? Explain, then we can help. One way is that this act will affect his behavior both at home and in public.

if your son starts to touch himself in a fashion that is inappropriate as the mother is jealous, that is a huge warning that her gf is abusing him