Why are husbands spiteful during divorce especially when they want to the divorce?

Now be totally honest with yourself. Have you really been perfectly nice and co-operative all the time for the past couple of years?

If the answers yes then either your lying, or you have a rose tinted view of your actions.

The truth is this will be both of you digging your heals in at times which will naturally be the reason why both of you are feeling the need to "put one over" the other person.

Answer

I would suppose it is because at some level he is trying to avoid feeling guilty for his part. Your best bet is to behave as if he were not doing this. Respond to the reasonable and ignore the other. Decide what you really need and get the information to back it up--still, you will not be completely taken care of, and only part of the agreement will go your way.

You will be glad later if you know you have behaved as well as you could and got what you needed. In the long run, you want to be separate from him financially and depend on yourself. Child support and mortgage payments are often an issue after divorce--make sure you are economically able to support yourself. Otherwise, he will essentially control your life after the divorce.

BTW, insist that he carry life insurance and that you are the beneficiary as part of the divorce.