Why do women blame the mistress instead of the husband who cheated?

This is an Excellent question. After many years I've discovered it's more territorial than anything else. One women doesn't want another winning over her man! However, it should be the person cheating that gets the kick in the butt. Many people that are already in a relationship have chances to cheat if they wish and many will refuse saying 'I have a girlfriend' or, 'I'm married.' That should be the end of it!

My first husband cheated and his mistress had the audacity to phone me with 'let's talk!' I told her that there would be no talking and I was tying a big red bow on his butt and she could have him along with his abusive ways. He was sitting right there when the call came in with a smirk on his face thinking that two women would be fighting over him. When he heard what I said his jaw hit the floor and then I kicked his butt out the door, got the locks changed the next day and filed for divorce. I wasn't mad at the mistress, but at him!

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For some they will blame the mistress because the husband will compare the wife to his mistress. Some wife will say that if she didn't agree with the husband, he will not cheat. But reality here, from the man I married when I discovered his affair with her, I didn't blame her nor get angry to her. I know it was him who saw her on a dating site, and from there their relationship started, from platonic friendship to emotional relationship that turn to love and physical affair. The only fault of this woman was she didn't say no to the man I married.