How can you make yourself love yourself when you dont like yourself?

RESPECT YOURSELF!Find things that you are good at and compare it to someone else and try to find someone that you are better at doing something that they're not.

And don't care or worry about what anyone says about you. Find something you are good at or get better at something you're not good at.

However, you may suffer from an overwhelming inferiority complex which may be accompanied by a depressive self loathing, deepened by your dependance on alcohol as a "fix", thus totally overriding any possible attempts at self improvement. Seeking professional help may improve your situation only if you heed, and act upon the advice given. As with the heroin addict, it comes down to how badly you really want to improve your life. Strength of character plays a major role. Either you have it, or you do not.

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You may be a fearfull person, expecting danger lying around each corner you turn. Yes you can have self respect, and still be so fearful of doing wrong, or having to a admit to yourself of having faults, so much so that you become agoraphobic, and continually try to impress your partner of your "rightness" all of the time.