What does it mean when you dream that your daughter gets strung out on drugs behind a boyfriend and he embarrasses her and returns her to you but until then you actual feel the pain of that lost?

This dream seems to express fairly normal parental anxieties about teenaged daughters. It also is not unusual to feel intense pain of loss, grief or fear in a dream. None of this means that the dream reflects the daughter's actual behavior or any future event. The dream concerns the dreamer's own emotions, not the real life situation.