How would you know if the guy you are with loves you?

Or if you really want to find out, try asking him this: "What if I was a boy with the same personallity? I know you wouldn't be physically attracted to me, but would you still love me? Or even care about me?" Getting a guy to admit that he would still love you might be a bit too much to ask. He may love you, but not want to admit that he would love you if you were a boy. But if he even says he'd still care about you, then he does love you. If he is the homophobic type, you could replace "boy" with "fat chick" or "quadriplegiac" or something else that he would not be physically attracted to but that wouldn't effect your personality.