Is it ok to have gay sex at 12?

No it is illegal. You must wait until you reach the age of consent for homosexual relationships. This age limit varies from country to country. Added: It is my understanding that the above answer originated from the UK and may reflect that country's legal view of the act. In the U.S. - While perhaps in many peoples eyes, this relationship might be a questionable activity, it would be illegal only if the act were forcible, or the other participant was an adult.