What do you do when you are happily married for 11 years but sex every day becomes more of a chore than romantic especially when you work alternate shifts and you are tired when partner comes home?

Who says a couple has to have sex every day! With two people working alternate shifts it's difficult. There is nothing wrong with planning one day on the weekend that you can go out for a bit of a romantic dinner (get a babysitter if you have too or trade off babysitting services with a friend and no money is involved) and then come home and have a quiet romantic evening together. If someone tells you they are 'getting it' 3 times a day every single day of the week most of the time this is simply not the truth! With modern day living there is more work, less money and personal problems and people are simply exhausted. Also communicate your plan with your partner. It doesn't matter if it's once a week as long as the quality of time is there for both of you.