Why do parents care less about their adult children when they turn 18?

We don t love you any less but you have a responsibility to care of yourself. As parents we would hurt you if you paid your debts, supported you etc without letting you fight your own battles. That is growing up. Do not mistake caring for a child for caring for an adult. You are supposed to be like us now and we will get old and frail and need you to be the stronger one. That is how we raised you. And we still treat you as kids at 18, most of us, and do not expect everything from you quiet yet, we are waiting for getting a job, graduating from college etc.